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Dealing With The Emotional Side Effects Of Your Husband’s Pornography Addiction

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When your husband is recovering from a pornography addiction, you might be wondering how you can cope with the blow to your relationship. The challenges you are facing as a spouse can be just as hard to overcome as the addiction itself. If you are in this situation, there are a few things you can do to help yourself remain emotionally stable as you seek to restore normalcy and trust to your relationship. Understand The Common Side Effects Wives who discover their husbands are compulsively viewing pornography may experience a range of negative emotions. These are common reactions that you might experience, even as your husband begins the recovery process and actively fights the addiction: Guilt. Frequently, women may feel like they could have prevented a sexual addiction if they had been present in the home, had been more sexually available for their husbands, or if they had done better at keeping their husbands happy. This feeling, while normal, is damaging and can lead to problems later. For example, the wife may resolve to “prevent” the addiction by striving to be the perfect spouse, increasing her stress and her expectations for improvement. Since her actions usually will have little bearing on how well the husband is able to recover, relapses can then be devastating. Lack of confidence. Women may feel discouraged because they are acutely aware of their own physical limitations. Because pornography often presents females in a hyper-sexualized way, an every-day spouse may feel like she has to compete with an unrealistic physical ideal in order to be attractive to her partner. This is impossible, and can result in feelings of diminished self-worth.  Anger. Anger is a common feeling, and it is completely natural. A wife may feel betrayed or cheated on. Also, because she was unaware of the addiction, she can also feel anger at herself because she “should have known.” Depression. A discovery of any kind of addiction brings with it a complete restructuring of the relationship and the family dynamic. Realizing that life was not what it seemed to be and facing the long road of recovery ahead can be discouraging. The feelings of betrayal and guilt can also trigger depression. These feelings described above are natural human responses to pornography addiction within a relationship. If they are not resolved, however, they can escalate and affect how well you are able to cope. If you seek to heal your relationship with your spouse and be supportive during his recovery, these feelings can prevent you from achieving those goals.  Seek Help To make sure the emotional consequences of this trial do not destroy you, you can combat them with a few different strategies. Here are some things you can try: Learn about addictions. One way to release your anger and gain empathy for your spouse is to learn how addictions work. You might struggle with ideas like “He must not love me enough to quit” or “if he only exerted some self-control.” Unfortunately, these logical responses a rarely motivating for an addict. Once you are able to view the challenge as an addiction, you might be more able to not take things as personally when your spouse has a relapse during treatment. You can also learn to spot troubling behaviors before they become worse.  Get therapy....

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Overcoming Disordered Eating: Three Unusual Eating Disorders

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When it comes to eating disorders, anorexia nervosa and bulimia, along with compulsive overeating, are the most well-known and the most widely treated. However, there are three other types of eating disorders that people struggle with that are less understood. These also need to be treated with a combination of medical interventions and mental health solutions. If you or a loved one is struggling with disordered eating, be sure to educate yourself on these problems, as you will want to be sure that all aspects of eating disorders are treated when you seek medical help. Treatment for the underlying causes of all types disordered eating is needed to prevent you or a loved one from developing more than one eating disorder, as they can evolve or co-exist. These three eating disorders, while not well-known, still pose a health risk.  Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder This disorder has some parallels with anorexia nervosa, but it has its own category because the person struggling with this type of eating disorder may not have the same issues with body image or extreme weight loss. In fact, they may eat plenty of food. It’s the food itself that is the problem. People may avoid specific foods so diligently that they are chronically malnourished and need medical supplements or even intravenous delivery of nutrients in order to provide the body with vitamins and minerals. For example, a person struggling with ARFID may only eat starches, or will compulsively avoid eating anything green or anything that has a specific texture. This goes beyond simple distaste. They have a strong emotional or mental block that physically impedes them from eating. Some patients may become sick or have have extreme anxiety if compelled to eat foods outside of their usual diet.  Psychotherapy can help a person with ARFID to confront the underlying anxieties that prevent them from eating a healthy diet. Anxieties might be learned from childhood. Sometimes, deep emotional ties have been developed for or against certain foods. Once a person can recognize these reactions, he or she can work on resolving the feelings so that they can be unhindered in choosing healthful, varied options later in life.  Rumination Disorder This disorder causes people to regurgitate food they have already swallowed in order to spit it out or re-chew it. Sometimes, regurgitation can be caused by physical medical conditions or medications. It is only a disorder when there is not medical explanation for the initial rejection of swallowed food. This disorder is more common in infants, and may be a physical response to stressful home environments, lack of stimulation, or to parental neglect. If regurgitated food is swallowed, serious side effects can be avoided. But, spitting food out will lead, of course, to malnutrition.  Sometimes, the issue can self-resolve, as the condition is less common in teens and adults. If it does not, or if the person is struggling to the nutrients needed to sustain life, the underlying psychological triggers will need to be addressed by a medical health professional.  Pica Pica is the appetite for non-food items, such as clay, ice, metal, or dirt. People may also eat paper, chalk or even detergent. It is medically dangerous disorder because these items can bring distress to the digestive system and causes lasting damage, especially if the ingested...

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